It's really unfortunate that so many of the people we know live under such conditions, sometimes with our knowledge (but we are too busy 'minding our own business) or without our knowledge (because our brothers and sisters are scared of the outcome should they speak up). No one should ever be subjected to such, praying for strength and healing to those who need it.
One would argue and say yes the majority of people who abuse other people are men, but there are women too who abuse their partners. And there are different types of abuses it doesn't have to be physical only. But then again yes some men can be dilusional and selfish, but the first step to healing is opening up to the person who has shown you trust more than everyone
There are very powerful points that you mentioned in your video and am quite happy that you mentioned , the first one is "being trapped in an abusive relationship because of finance", there reason why I love that is, most people leave aside their happiness to be stuck in an abusive relationship because of money and it's their way of surviving, and something should be done about that.
That's true, but for something to be done people also have to open up and talk about their issues, because you can't help a person who doesn't want to be helped, 'you can take a donkey to the river but you can't make it drink water'
I think you should also provide counseling sessions for people who abuse people in relationships. So that we can find what makes them do that because sometimes you'll get people who grew up in an abusive home and as a kid that person grew up with the mentality of beating women/ men.
Although what you're saying is true but somethings do not determine who you are, the things we grow up seeing does not determine who we are or what we're going to be like when we grow up, for example I grew up with a father in my life but that doesn't mean I will do the same to my children, it's all about what you're tell yourself.
I love how you encouraged people men/ women that they can be free from abusive relationships and I also love that you indirectly mentioned that there are different types of abuses emhlabeni and am still hoping for more in your blog, hoping that everyone who is tuned in will learn a few things from you and your inspirational videos. Keep it up, maybe you'll also be able to help me too as I have my own problems which needs to be dealt with with your help of cause
There is nothing in this world that powerful more than the mind of a human being, Einstein once said "thinking that has got me this far in life has created problems that this thinking can't solve", being a survivor starts from within and hopefully people are touched and encouraged to open up and be survivors of this disease, and I classify this as a disease because it eats you up every day without anyone noticing and it kills your self esteem and confidence, not to mention your soul. But Les Brown once said "there easiest thing he has ever done was to get out of the labels (your abusive relationship), the most difficult thing he has ever done was to believe he can do it" same applies to you firstly you gotta believe you can do and in that way you'll encourage others to follow that route also a wise man once said, "don't go where every else is going but head in your own direction and make sure you leave a trail". Asanda Zulu, I love what you're doing and I believe it will help many more others and thank you for thinking of doing this it will make a difference. 💆♀️💆♂️🙌
Interesting video . This shows pain women go through in their relationship.let us protect and love izimbali zethu.. Thank you Asanda for this video.. #Asanda uyi ⭐
Living in fear of not knowing what will happen the time your abuser decides to come back home and claim your body as if he own it��dare say a word NO hell will break loose, you will get beaten until you feel as if your soul is leaving your body same time, the only thing you pray for is that God rather take you than being subjected to such pain and suffering, you may try taking your life countless times and your plan won't work because the Lord has other plans. But after you decide it enough and get all the help you need trust me like dust you rise up with your head held up high as if nothing ever happened to you. Only talking helps when it comes to such things am talking from experience it's not easy to open up but it really does help. Thank you so much MaChumase lol you see I know you. you may not be aware but you are helping lot of people keep it up
Firstly I am deeply sorry that you had to go through all that pain but am glad you have healed even though it wasn't easy, and thank you also with the few points you mentioned,I promise I will continue doing this🤗
We are living in a horrible world hey...where the people who are suppose to protecting us are the one's that are hurting us like this😢💔....I just hope and pray that women get enough strengths to overcome all this painful abuse
It's a pity that there are women who are going through this each and every day, the pain of being abused by a man who is supposed to love you, protect you and make you happy. We live in a world where women have accepted that abuse is part of life of which is not true. I say once a man lay a hand on you and you forgive him it will never stop. Women need to learn that there is nothing wrong with moving on, at the end of the day your happiness comes first no matter what and a person who truly loves you will never be the reason you cry and feel pain.
Very true mina nj once a guy lay his hand kumuntu wesifazane that is the day I consider as a weak and powerless man n I really hate the fact that most women stay in these abusive relationships with so much home that their partners will change
It's really unfortunate that so many of the people we know live under such conditions, sometimes with our knowledge (but we are too busy 'minding our own business) or without our knowledge (because our brothers and sisters are scared of the outcome should they speak up). No one should ever be subjected to such, praying for strength and healing to those who need it.
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DeleteTrue no should live in fear, I hope this video will help many people to speak and seek help if they find themselves in such situation
DeletePeople who have to abuse others in a relationship should be arrested
ReplyDelete😭😭😭😭💔💔
DeleteYes they don't deserve to walk around freely as if what they are doing is acceptable
DeleteMmmh 💪🤔and some they walk freely like nothing happened 😥
ReplyDeleteYes and that's totally wrong!!
DeleteThis is so touching 😣 why do we let them do what they do ? #IAmStrong
ReplyDeleteYou are indeed strong sisi
DeleteWe need brave people like you 😭💯
ReplyDeleteThat's why I am availing myself🤗
DeleteAm proud of you moghel
ReplyDeleteThank you Sis🤗
DeleteSo proud of you sandy. Indeed a problem shared is a problem half solved. Keep it up Mntwana 👍
ReplyDeleteNgyabonga kakhulu🤗
DeleteThis is going to help many people to open about their abusive relationship
ReplyDeleteYes, I hope so
DeleteThis is so unique 🤔..can't wait for more,you are going to heal lots of life with this
ReplyDeleteThank you so much🤗
DeleteMmmm so touching
ReplyDeleteThanks🤗🤗
DeleteYou're so brave��❤️���� and the women in you is so inspiring.. Keep the good work
ReplyDeleteThank you very much🤗🤗
DeleteThis enlightens our lives
ReplyDeleteI am glad it does
DeleteThis enlightens our lives
ReplyDeleteSo true😊
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DeleteWe need people like you to bring hope,light and support those who find themselves in this situations.... Man can be so delusional and selfish 💔😢
ReplyDeleteYes sis that's why I am availing myself.
DeleteOne would argue and say yes the majority of people who abuse other people are men, but there are women too who abuse their partners. And there are different types of abuses it doesn't have to be physical only. But then again yes some men can be dilusional and selfish, but the first step to healing is opening up to the person who has shown you trust more than everyone
DeleteI love everything about your blog Asanda,I hope to see more of your beautiful work.keep it up
ReplyDeleteThank you, stay tuned for more🤗
DeleteWow such inspiring blog MaZulu
ReplyDelete🤭Thanks
DeleteKeep it up Asanda, uyancomeka umsebenzi wakho
ReplyDeleteNgyabonga kakhulu
DeleteYou are a true definition of IMBOKODO✊encouraging other women to voice out their feelings
ReplyDeleteHawee🤭ngswele amagama okubonga, Ngyabonga kakhulu
DeleteHopefully people are really encouraged to be survivors,nice one sis
ReplyDeleteThanks
DeleteWow I didn't know there were brave woman like you out there
ReplyDeleteI try hy😊
DeleteAmazing work ghel
ReplyDeleteDankie
DeleteYinhle intoyakho we Asanda🤗
ReplyDeleteNgiyabonga🤭😊😊
DeleteIntresting work
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DeleteYou arw such a rock star😍
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DeleteThis is powerful💪 indeed
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DeleteThere are very powerful points that you mentioned in your video and am quite happy that you mentioned , the first one is "being trapped in an abusive relationship because of finance", there reason why I love that is, most people leave aside their happiness to be stuck in an abusive relationship because of money and it's their way of surviving, and something should be done about that.
ReplyDeleteThat's true, but for something to be done people also have to open up and talk about their issues, because you can't help a person who doesn't want to be helped, 'you can take a donkey to the river but you can't make it drink water'
DeleteYes that's very true, for me to help you, you should first admit that you really need help
DeleteI think you should also provide counseling sessions for people who abuse people in relationships. So that we can find what makes them do that because sometimes you'll get people who grew up in an abusive home and as a kid that person grew up with the mentality of beating women/ men.
ReplyDeleteAlthough what you're saying is true but somethings do not determine who you are, the things we grow up seeing does not determine who we are or what we're going to be like when we grow up, for example I grew up with a father in my life but that doesn't mean I will do the same to my children, it's all about what you're tell yourself.
DeleteI will try by all means to provide sessions that will accommodate each and everyone, even those people who think all is well in their lives.
DeleteI love how you encouraged people men/ women that they can be free from abusive relationships and I also love that you indirectly mentioned that there are different types of abuses emhlabeni and am still hoping for more in your blog, hoping that everyone who is tuned in will learn a few things from you and your inspirational videos. Keep it up, maybe you'll also be able to help me too as I have my own problems which needs to be dealt with with your help of cause
ReplyDeleteThanks, I also hope someone is learning something from my blog, and I will be more than willing to offer my help in whatever problem you have
DeleteThere is nothing in this world that powerful more than the mind of a human being, Einstein once said "thinking that has got me this far in life has created problems that this thinking can't solve", being a survivor starts from within and hopefully people are touched and encouraged to open up and be survivors of this disease, and I classify this as a disease because it eats you up every day without anyone noticing and it kills your self esteem and confidence, not to mention your soul. But Les Brown once said "there easiest thing he has ever done was to get out of the labels (your abusive relationship), the most difficult thing he has ever done was to believe he can do it" same applies to you firstly you gotta believe you can do and in that way you'll encourage others to follow that route also a wise man once said, "don't go where every else is going but head in your own direction and make sure you leave a trail". Asanda Zulu, I love what you're doing and I believe it will help many more others and thank you for thinking of doing this it will make a difference. 💆♀️💆♂️🙌
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for adding such information, it will also help others on its own.
DeleteThank you for availing yourself to us and giving us a platform to talk .. Keep up the good work Ndabezitha 🙌🏽🙌🏽
ReplyDeleteKubonga mina. MaShozi🤗
DeleteWhat an interesting blogger
ReplyDeleteActually I can wait to hear more
😊Sit back and relax there's so much more that's coming
DeleteMmmmm🤔.#not in my name
ReplyDeleteNice blog you have there ntombi
ReplyDeleteNgyabonga kakhulu 🤗
DeleteNgabe kusuke kwenzakalani ekhanda lomuntu ohlukumeza omunye umuntu🤔
ReplyDeleteI don't really know either but, it is so wrong in every way
DeleteThis is so so powerful, people shouldn't take being abused lightly, as a person your happiness and your wellbeing should always come first
ReplyDeleteThat's exactly my point, I want people to put themselves first in everything
DeleteThis is so touching indeed no one should live in fear
ReplyDeleteExactly my point
DeleteInteresting video . This shows pain women go through in their relationship.let us protect and love izimbali zethu..
ReplyDeleteThank you Asanda for this video..
#Asanda uyi ⭐
Thank you, please do protect izimbali zesizwe guys👏
DeleteWow I'm speechless, such a sensitive topic but we shouldn't avoid it because it happens everyday.
ReplyDeleteAs much much as it is sensitive it shouldn't be avoided, abuse is a serious issue
DeleteYou sure do know your story,keep it up
ReplyDeleteThanks
DeleteMageba great work!
ReplyDeleteDankie
DeleteYou're so creative continue with this beautiful work
ReplyDeleteWill do so... thanks
DeleteMmm great minds usually think something great like this, hope you are healing souls with your blog
ReplyDeleteThanks.. I hope so too
DeleteIt so great to know that we still have woman like you out there. Who are willing to help their sisters and mothers talk about what's troubling them
ReplyDeleteWell yeah we need to give each other as much support as we can
DeleteThis is so touching��
ReplyDelete😊That was my intention
DeleteWow very nice and interesting
ReplyDeleteThank you so much
DeleteKeep it up mate!
ReplyDeleteWill do😊
DeleteNice blog
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DeleteWe Asoo awuqhubeke polizzi
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DeleteWow so interesting
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DeleteThis is touching 😥😥
ReplyDeleteI am glad it touched you sis
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Deleterelevant and really educating 👌thank you
ReplyDeleteKubonga mina
DeleteLiving in fear of not knowing what will happen the time your abuser decides to come back home and claim your body as if he own it��dare say a word NO hell will break loose, you will get beaten until you feel as if your soul is leaving your body same time, the only thing you pray for is that God rather take you than being subjected to such pain and suffering, you may try taking your life countless times and your plan won't work because the Lord has other plans. But after you decide it enough and get all the help you need trust me like dust you rise up with your head held up high as if nothing ever happened to you. Only talking helps when it comes to such things am talking from experience it's not easy to open up but it really does help. Thank you so much MaChumase lol you see I know you. you may not be aware but you are helping lot of people keep it up
ReplyDeleteFirstly I am deeply sorry that you had to go through all that pain but am glad you have healed even though it wasn't easy, and thank you also with the few points you mentioned,I promise I will continue doing this🤗
DeleteThank you very much.
ReplyDeleteAbuse yona ayikho ryt. Thank you ntombi for this
ReplyDeleteKubonga mina
DeleteOnly if it was that easy to talk about such. I mean fear of the unknow is always great than the courage to speak out
ReplyDeleteI know people need to overcome that fear
DeleteWow..thnx for sharing with us dear😍
ReplyDeleteMy pleasure
DeleteHope Over everything💯
ReplyDeleteYep that's true🙌
DeleteThank you for sharing im touched and i love your blog thank you for healing us 🙏❤
ReplyDeleteThank you sis😍
DeleteUnesbindi Asanda ngyakuphakamisa njengembokodo✊ continue with the good work...
ReplyDeleteNgyabonga kakhulu Njabulo🤗🤭
DeleteAmandla💪🏾
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DeleteI love blog...u're so brave. Thnks for sharing
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DeleteInteresting. Gender abuse in relationship is prohibited
ReplyDeleteIt's not allowed🙅♀️very wrong
DeleteWe are living in a horrible world hey...where the people who are suppose to protecting us are the one's that are hurting us like this😢💔....I just hope and pray that women get enough strengths to overcome all this painful abuse
ReplyDeleteI hope so too hy😢
DeleteThis is such a touching topic being abused all because of love😢😢😢
ReplyDeleteYea hy being subjected to such pain all in the name of love
DeleteAre post are so inspiring
ReplyDeleteThanks
DeleteWe need brave people like you asanda
ReplyDelete#phambili nge mbokodo🔥🔥
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DeleteIt's a pity that there are women who are going through this each and every day, the pain of being abused by a man who is supposed to love you, protect you and make you happy. We live in a world where women have accepted that abuse is part of life of which is not true. I say once a man lay a hand on you and you forgive him it will never stop. Women need to learn that there is nothing wrong with moving on, at the end of the day your happiness comes first no matter what and a person who truly loves you will never be the reason you cry and feel pain.
ReplyDeleteVery true mina nj once a guy lay his hand kumuntu wesifazane that is the day I consider as a weak and powerless man n I really hate the fact that most women stay in these abusive relationships with so much home that their partners will change
DeleteYr post are interesting 🤗
ReplyDeleteThank you so much
DeleteInteresting nana👏
ReplyDeleteKubonga mina
ReplyDeleteSo bravery of you Asanda✊✊✊
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